Happy Mother’s Day!

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My mom had me really young. Twenty years old, to be exact. When I think of what her walk back home from the doctor must’ve been like, I get sad to think how scared she probably was. I’m sure in between those steps there was an “oh fuck” muttered once or twice, or three times. But, she was brave, listened to her heart and moved onward.

What my mom lacked in maturity and life experience, she made up with effort. My mom tried. Like, really, really tried. My mom read all the books, she asked her mother (who raised seven children herself) all the questions, she’d seek older women out at the park and ask them questions, she attended every PTA meeting, every school event, attended all of my tennis matches (though she still has no idea what 40-LOVE means), figured out how to give me advice and guide me without pushing me away. And in those adolescent years when daughters and mothers fight like cats and dogs, we really had very little of that. My mom made sure we weren’t “friends”; she was my mom, and I saw her as my guide through life.

Looking back, I think my mom’s success as a mother came from just trying, day in and day out, even when she might’ve felt overwhelmed, scared, hopeless and beat down. She never gave up. She was determined, along with my dad, to make sure my brother and I turned out to be good, contributing people to society, in one way or another.

So, thanks mami for showing me, by example, how to be an honest, kind and open human. But most of all, thanks for trying.

Happy Mother’s Day!

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Averie @ Averie Cooks May 10, 2013 at 1:41 am

What a wonderful post and yes, 20…so young. But clearly, everything worked out beautifully :) I love these pics!

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Anita May 10, 2013 at 2:19 am

This is such a beautiful post – your mom is so gorgeous! Inside and out obviously!

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cindy May 10, 2013 at 4:48 am

so sweet…moms are pretty great and your mom sounds like a total gem.

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Tieghan May 10, 2013 at 5:35 am

Such a nice post!! My mom had my oldest brother at 18 and my parents now have 7 kids and are still happily married after all these years. It still amazes me! I have never thought though about what she was thinking when she found out she was preggers with my brother! Most of been so scary!

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Adrianna Adarme May 12, 2013 at 9:06 pm

My parents have been married ever since they got pregnant with me. CRAZY that it all worked out.

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Heather @ A Sweet Simple Life May 10, 2013 at 6:55 am

Lovely post! Moms are the best!

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Shoko May 10, 2013 at 7:01 am

This is beautiful, Adrianna!

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Molly May 10, 2013 at 7:39 am

What beautiful photos of you and your mom! I think she definitely did a great job with you. My mom who lives across the country is in town for my law school graduation and I’m taking the rare opportunity of being with her (and my dad) to make them a nice brunch. I’m pretty excited! Moms are the best.

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Adrianna Adarme May 12, 2013 at 9:05 pm

Awesome. Hope you enjoyed your day with your mama!

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Michelle May 10, 2013 at 9:06 am

Such a beautiful tribute to your beautiful mom! My mom had me at 20, too, and I can’t even fathom what that would be like. Being a dog-mom at 28 is enough for me!

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Adrianna Adarme May 12, 2013 at 9:06 pm

Dude, you just said it best.

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Megan May 10, 2013 at 9:12 am

So sweet!

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April May 10, 2013 at 9:22 am

This is the sweetest post… love it! My mom had me at 18 and I can never imagine what was going through her mind that time. I agree with everyone, Moms are the best! <3

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Adrianna Adarme May 12, 2013 at 9:05 pm

Oh gosh. I can’t even imagine.

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Stacey May 10, 2013 at 9:52 am

So poignant and beautiful! I’ll bet your mom is so proud of you. I am so fortunate to have an amazing mom myself, and I thank God every day for her.

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Francesca May 10, 2013 at 10:05 am

lovely.

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Sophie May 10, 2013 at 10:22 am

Your mother is beautiful! Thanks for sharing these photo with us. Our moms did so much… we have a lot to be thankful for :)

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Elizabeth A May 10, 2013 at 10:51 am

Sweet story and all worked out. Lucky, you two must be special!

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Cookie and Kate May 10, 2013 at 12:00 pm

I’m so glad the world has moms like yours and mine, you know? Your mother sounds like a really wonderful lady.

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Adrianna Adarme May 12, 2013 at 9:04 pm

Totally.

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Sarah C. May 10, 2013 at 12:52 pm

That was so sweet. Thanks for posting.

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Tia S. May 10, 2013 at 1:15 pm

So precious! Thank you for sharing such cherished memories.

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cherie May 10, 2013 at 1:20 pm

What a beautiful tribute – I hope my children known someday how hard I try!

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Adrianna Adarme May 12, 2013 at 9:04 pm

Oh man, they will! They will.

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Rebecca May 10, 2013 at 3:16 pm

Very sweet post :-)

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jessicaisbaking May 10, 2013 at 4:39 pm

This is so sweet. I love seeing pictures of you when you were little. I bet your Mom is so proud of you!

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Katie @ Blonde Ambition May 10, 2013 at 5:29 pm

What a sweet post! She sounds like a lovely lady.

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Nina May 10, 2013 at 7:01 pm

Pero ¡que bella tu mami! And what an adorable little you!

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Adrianna Adarme May 12, 2013 at 9:04 pm

Thanks, Nina! She was super pretty and still is.

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Laura (Blogging Over Thyme) May 10, 2013 at 7:16 pm

Such a great posts–I’m sure your mom loved this. You were so cute!! And your mom is beautiful.

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Adrianna Adarme May 12, 2013 at 9:03 pm

She called me and said she cried. :)

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Lori May 10, 2013 at 7:18 pm

this is truly a beautiful post!

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Whitney @ The Newlywed Chefs May 11, 2013 at 1:29 pm

Wonderful post!

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flavia May 11, 2013 at 2:37 pm

<3

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Mary May 11, 2013 at 4:49 pm

Thank you for sharing. You told your moms story beautifully. Love the picture of the two of you in the snow.

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Adrianna Adarme May 12, 2013 at 9:01 pm

Aw yay. Thanks, Mary!

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Carmen May 12, 2013 at 9:13 am

Que carta mas bonita! Yo no tengo ya mami pero soy mama y se lo mucho que tus palabras pueden significar . Tu madre que guapa!bs

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Adrianna Adarme May 12, 2013 at 9:03 pm

Tiene razón! Mi mami es tan bellísima, gracias Carmen!

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Catherine May 12, 2013 at 4:09 pm

That was so sweet. I think you probably gave the best tribute all day!

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Adrianna Adarme May 12, 2013 at 9:03 pm

So glad you liked it! She’s the best.

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Jayne May 12, 2013 at 10:01 pm

:-) A good friend told me that no matter what age you are, when you have your own kids you never really know if you’re doing anything right at all. It’s a walk of faith and hope for the best. You are the testament of her success!

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Holly Henderson May 14, 2013 at 6:16 am

This makes me cry a little, thinking of the kind of mother that I want to be and that really the most important thing is to try hard and do your best. And hopefully your kids will forgive you someday. ; )

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dervla @ The Curator May 14, 2013 at 7:54 am

awww Adrianna, this was so beautiful. Love those shots of younger you :)

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Crafty Vegan May 14, 2013 at 9:00 am

My partner had his daughter when he was 16. She’s such a wonderful girl. Personally I can’t imagine having a daughter so young (I met him when his girl was 5) but he’s such a great dad to her ♥ It just goes to show it doesn’t matter how young you are when you have kids, as long as you’re willing to try! Such a lovely post about your mum! She’s a very pretty lady! (and you were an adorable kid!)

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